#AARTalk July edition with @OsiriWisdom

OSIRI WISDOM@OsiriWisdom  WAS OUR 3rd GUEST SPEAKER ON THE JULY EDITION OF #AARTalk. HE SHARED ON "PARENTING IN THE 21ST CENTURY."

Thanks a million @Bunmi_Sobowale . It's begin a long time of planning to get me on this platform. Am glad I can today.

Today, as you would have informed, we are discussing #AARtalks : "Parenting in the 21st Century" 

The 21st century is characterized by technology making things easier, faster, etc but parenting is certainly not on the list.
And the 19th couples gave birth to eight children just in case five die of a cold, malaria, demonic activities, etc 

Some gave birth to 12 children as a ready force work for the farms.

The parenting challenges that 21st century parents face are drastically different from the centuries past. 

The Internet alone is a major stone on the plates of parents. The Internet is actually, a double edged sword. 

The Internet has the capacity to make or mar the parenting experience of many couples. 

The infinite possibilities of tools like smart phones and iPads with free WiFi, is absolutely limitless. 

These tools have become potential substitutes and strong competitors to parents at home. 

Actually some of these platforms on social media have more influence on children than their parents.

If parents would tell the truth, there is a sort of "Parenting Panic" that the 21st century has introduced into parenting. 

The key point is this: the rules and theories of parenting the worked in the centuries before now, no longer work. 

Majority of the parenting theories of the early centuries are, to say the least, obsolete, ineffective and irrelevant now. 

Parenting is not for the faint-hearted and weak persons in adult bodies. PARENTING IS FOR THE STRONG! 

Let’s be honest: there are a lot of heartbreaking things that can happen to children these days. 

As toddlers, they could swallow a small toy and pull furniture down on themselves. Play with knives and sharp objects. 

Just last week a family lost a 10 years old boy to electric shock (playing with a reading lamb that was faulty). So painful. 

Children fall down the stairs, run into the middle of the road, burn themselves on the stove, or get bitten by another child. 

They could get lost in the store, crash their bike, fall of the playground and get abducted by a stranger. 

As teens, they could get mixed up with the wrong crowd, crash the car, get hooked on drugs and illicit sex. 

As young adults, they could marry the wrong person, choose the wrong career, or move with bad companies. 

What should preoccupy our minds though should be the wisdom,tools & skill sets that will helps us make good parenting decisions.

The parenting world is a dynamic one, things are changing too fast that methods that worked last year are now obsolete. 

Let's go through some #Wisdomshifts you need to succeed at parenting in the 21st century. 

Wisdomshift 1. SACRIFICE. To parent successfully in the 21st century, you must understand sacrifice. 

It takes sacrificial living to parent in the 21st century. #SELFISHNESS AND #PARENTING are not compatible.Are"You" still there? 

Sacrifice says, "Pay now and play tomorrow";selfishness says, "Play now and pay tomorrow". #TheGreatChoice.

Honestly, some parents are just #PLAYING thinking they are #PARENTING. PARENTING IS A JOURNEY OF DYING TO SELF. 

Sacrifice will cause you to put priority on your parenting job. #PARENTING is very #DEMANDING but #REWARDING if done well. 

Surprisingly, many parents do not know that the word "parent" is not a #TITLE but a #JobDESCRIPTION. 

Without sacrifice mentality, parenting in the 21st century is more stressful than ever before. #SACRIFICE IS A SHOCK absorber. 

Sacrifice will encourage you to put your children before many things including...(Fill in).

Next, #Wisdomshift 2. STUDIOUS. As a parent in the 21st century you must educate yourself comprehensively. Study #PARENTING 

The more educated you are about the issues facing your kids, the wiser your parenting decisions are and the less you’ll worry. 

Take the Internet for instance. We all know that the online world can be a dangerous place for kids if they aren’t careful. 

The problem is, in many cases our children know more about computers and the Internet than we do. what do you think? 

We can’t train them in Internet safety if we don’t know how to use it ourselves. #WakeUp #Parents. 

Plus, the problem is scarier to us if we don’t fully understand it. #IGNORANCE is the root of #FEAR! 

The solution is to find a computer-savvy friend who can teach you how to use the technology and walk you through the pitfalls. 

The wiser you can be about the technology at home and the fewer worries you’re going to have about #PARENTING. 

This applies not just to the Internet, but to every parenting fear you have.Knowledge puts your apprehensions into perspective. 

Next, #Wisdomshift 3. SOCIABILITY. Many parents are many things but sociable with their children. 

Talk freely with your children. Talking with them provides a great bonding and teaching opportunities. 

An informed child is the best defense against the many things that could potentially happen to them. 

The more the child knows about the dangers that exist and how to protect themselves, the safer they are even in your absence. 

So coach them. Talk with them about the things they see in their world and give them the freedom to share their fears with you. 

Teach them right boundaries. There are some things they are unable to protect themselves, in those cases we must do it for them.

 Even then, though, it should be done in a context that enables them to learn the reasons, so they can to develop personal boundaries.

Interact with them, don't just instruct. And so they’ll understand how to deal with the situation if the boundaries ever slip.

Help them develop a reasoned lifestyle, where they know why they do what they do. #Powered #PARENTING. 

Next #Wisdomshift 4: STRATEGIC THINKING. Hmmm. This would be in part 2. Let me give you some inspirational words that would help you.

“Your children need your #PRESENCE more than your #PRESENTS".

“Whatever you would have your children become, strive to exhibit in your own lives and conversation.” #Parents #ListenUp.

“Never do for a child what he is capable of doing for himself.” #PARENTING 

Hmmm! Let's rest here for today. Go do something with what you've got. Thanks @Bunmi_Sobowale for asking me to do this. #Excel. 

 



OSIRI WISDOM is  a Relationship, Entrepreneurship and Leadership Consultant. I provide wisdom to help people achieve excellence in these 3 core areas of life!