TAIWO AKINLAMI @taiwoakinlami WAS OUR 2nd GUEST SPEAKER ON THE JULY EDITION OF #AARTalk. HE SHARED ON "PARENTING AND PROTECTING YOUR CHILD."
There are 4 rings of protection: family, community, state & international community.
The family comes first and without the family the other rings are ineffective.
The other rings cannot take over the responsibility of the family at any level.
The traditional role of the other rings of protection is to empower the family.
There is no such thing as good sch…A school is only good when the school & parents collaborate to raise the child .
A child is a leader born, who may never be made one, expect through the knowledge, skills&attitude of the handlers (parents&others).
A child has only one problem. It is the ignorance of the primary& secondary caregivers. Are you equipped to raise a child?
There are ONLY 2 Kinds of people in the life of a Child, those who are part of d Child's Solutions &those who are part of his problems.
Abuse of any form is a negative investment, which produces devastating,but sure returns on the present and future of the child.
Children will always remember you for the care you give or the abuse you perpetrate. For what would your children remember you?
Love to children means attention & appreciation. How much of these do you give to your child?
Every child needs SOMEONE to BELIEVE- A Role Model. Are you a role model to your child?
Every child needs SOMETHING to BELIEVE –Values. What values do you teach your child?
Every child needs SOMEWHERE to BELONG-Family & Community? Please make the home & community habitable for your child.
Every child needs SOMETHING to BECOME-Aspiration to Significance and Pursuit of Inner Potential. Are you making d investment?
Every child needs the AFFIRMATION of his FREEDOM& RESPONSIBILITY-A sense of dignity& self-worth. How often do you affirm child?
Childhood is not synonymous with slavery. Do not cage your child. Teach him/her the values of true freedom.
There is a difference between an obedient child& a subdued child? Love builds obedience. Abuse builds rejection.
A Child’s reluctance is not necessarily rebellion. It may be calling your attention to a form of abuse. Pay attention.
We must define abuse by its impact & not by the action.. It does nothing but to dehumanize a child. Avoid it.
The impact of abuse is eternal, except there is divine intervention. Do not abuse a child.
Discipline is simply to help a child to be conscious of his/her dignity of human person. Are you aware?
In child discipline,example is superior to instruction.Long before children understand instructions, they already understand example.
In child protection, prevention is better than cure. Prevention answers to vigilance. Are you vigilant?
When the purpose of child discipline is not known, its abuse is inevitable. Why do you discipline your child?
Everything you do not like in your child today, you put it there through ignorance. You only remove it through knowledge, skills& attitude.
Childhood is everything therefore the foundation of strong adulthood is laid in childhood.
I am yet to meet a man/woman, whose foundation of his/her life was not laid in CHILDHOOD.
There are 4 kinds of abuse: physical, emotional, sexual and neglect. Is your child protected?
An abused child & spoilt child share common destiny of purposelessness. Never indulge your child & avoid abuse.
The closer a person is to your child, the higher the possibility of abuse. Be careful with who u entrust your child.
What you do to the child, the child does to you and to the world around him/her. What are you doing to your child?
When you do not respect a child, he does not respect you, demand respect from others or respect himself.
The foundation of child psychology is child socialization. To what environment do u expose your child?
In matter of child protecting enlightenment is superior to enforcement. Enlightenment focuses on prevention. Enforcement focuses on cure.
Children are not leaders of tomorrow. They are leaders of today. Leadership simply means ability to take responsibility.
One COMMANDMENT every parent gives their children from birth, whether they know it or not is ‘FOLLOW ME and I will MAKE YOU.
A Child has SIGHT…Adult has INSIGHT…Without the adult’s INSIGHT giving direction to a child’s SIGHT, a child is BLIND.
Teach your child to know the difference between what is harmful & what is painful & how to relate to both.
It’s impossible to help a child without talking (making our DESIRES known) & listening (getting necessary FEEDBACK) to him.
Parenting can’t b delegated. It is a divine assignment. Any attempt to delegate it will end in producing malfunctioning child.
Nothing kills a Child’s excitement like when custodians don't show interest in matters which the child considers important.
Childhood doesn't happen merely by BIRTH,but by CULTIVATION which happens by a clear understanding of the divine design.
A man's life begins & ends in CHILDHOOD. To PROTECT a CHILD is to PROTECT HUMANITY.
ChildProtection(CP) Intelligence asks:What measures arr in place to protect children here? CP Illiteracy asks: Are children safe here?
TO PRESERVE CHILDHOOD, you must PRESERVE its Fundamental Traits: FREEDOM,JOY,CURIOSITY,
Many of us in ADULTHOOD were not children before, because we never experienced these FUNDAMENTAL TRAITS of childhood.
Once a child is robbed of his FREEDOM, he seeks nothing but the day of emancipation. Childhood is not synonymous to SLAVERY.
Teaching a child to obey rules only ends up in his HEAD but teaching him d VALUES behind the rules ends up in his HEART.
The task of becoming responsible adults begins from CHILDHOOD. It is given by God to the PRY&SEC CAREGIVERS OF CHILDREN.
It is ONLY through PROTECTED & PRESERVED CHILDHOOD that RESPONSIBLE ADULTHOOD is birthed.
Profound Formula: PROTECTED + PRESERVED CHILDHOOD = RESPONSIBLE ADULTHOOD.
It is only when we employ our LEARNING OF CHILDHOOD&LEARNING from CHILDHOOD that we can be for CHILDHOOD & PRESERVE same.
Any attempt to analyze ADULTHOOD without linking it to foundation CHILDHOOD will result in a WOEFUL EXERCISE IN FUTILITY.
Do you know that there are 2 kinds of adults today.
Those who have only d Knowledge from CHILDHOOD& Those who have both d Knowledge from CHILDHOOD and the knowledge OF CHILDHOOD.
Who is parenting your child…Everyone who has influence on your child is a parent including living& non-living things.
Raising Children will require this 3: Knowledge (What to do);Skill (How to do it); Attitude (Wisdom and Inner Strength to do it).
Children are not Vulnerable: when a child is abused, there are 3 culprits:the primary and secondary custodians,the abuser and the onlooker.
When a child is ROBBED of his/her HUMANITY, the HUMAN RACE is ROBBED of its PEACE and STABILITY.
The State of Humanity is in the hands of the child, beginning with the custodians...
Whatever we give to the child is what he gives back to humanity, beginning from the parents.
To keep our children within our view is also having the right attitude towards the safety of our children.
There is no such thing as CHILD VULNERABILITY, what we call CHILD VULNERABILITY is simply ADULT’S IRRESPONSIBILITY.
There is no such thing as Less/Under-Privileged Children.All children are born equal.
A Child beyond Parental Control is a final admission of Parental Failure as a parent.Your child is a product of your training.
The no One responsibility of a caregiver is to protect the child...
For every one wrong word you say to a child, you need 17 words to correct it.
...when a child is abused he develops a siege mentality...Though he is in the midst of family and friends, he feels in the mist of enemies.
In conclusion, raising children in d 21st century require what i call HARD CHOICES...
The Ist HARD CHOICE is: must I have Children,understanding that the real joy of having children is not that they are born but how they raised.
The birth of a child is not automatically a blessing...If it must be it is the responsibility of the caregiver.
If the birth of a child is automatically a blessing,the world wouldn't have witnessed Hitler,who was abused and ended up killing 62 million people.
Having children is not the only meaning that must be attributed to being fruitful.
It does not make sense to bring children to this world with a developmental plan, which include protection.
The ruin of a nation begins in the homes of its people, so says the Ghanaian proverb.
The reverse is also true...The prosperity of a nation begins in the homes of its people.
The reverse is also true...The prosperity of a nation begins in the homes of its people.
it is time to focus on child development and protection of our children. it is our no one responsibility.
Child protection begins with peaceful and mature relationship between husband and wife.
Your role as a change agent does not begin with changing the world,it begins with changing yourself & extend same to your family.
YOU...Me? YES!!! You are the CHANGE the WORLD has been waiting for...You have a great opportunity to start with your family & children.
It has been great being with you...Thank you ma'am for having me...Do have an INSPIRED weekend...SHALOM.
AKINLAMI TAIWO is a Social EMPOWERMENT Advocate.Child Protection THINKER & PRACTITIONER.Gen. Sec. CPN,LAGOS.Consultant to UNICEF.Facilitator British Council Sch Leadership Program.Lawyer.
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