MEET OUR MARCH SPEAKERS ON #AARTALK: SANDRA GOLD IBEH, BUKKY SHONIBARE, TOLULOPE SANGOSANYA, EXCEL ADELEYE.
Twitter handles: @SandraSandyGold @BukkyShonibare @dustbinestate @ExcelImpacts
SANDRA GOLD @SandraSandyGold WAS OUR 1ST GUEST SPEAKER ON THE MARCH EDITION OF #AARTalk. SSHARED ON "REDUCING YOUR RISK OF BEING SEXUALLY ASSAULTED. "
Thank you @Bunmi_Sobowale. Good evening everyone, and thank you for having me.
Firstly, let me thank God for this opportunity availed to me, I promise to use it to the glory of God & for the benefit of mankind.
I submit myself under the leading of the Holy Spirit, and I pray that he will bless someone through me tonight, Amen.
As you would know of course, my incredible Sister @Bunmi_Sobowale is the visionary behind #AARTalk. Honoured to do this, so lets do this.
Tonight, we shall be learning some tips on how one can secure oneself against rape or any form of sexual assault.
The Topic is, “reducing your risk of being sexually assaulted.”
Before we proceed, It is pertinent we understand the concept of sexual assault.
According to Wikipedia, Sexual assault is any involuntary sexual act in which a person is coerced or physically forced to engage./i
...against their will, or any non-consensual sexual touching of a person./ii
Sexual assault is a crime of motive and opportunity.
Ultimately, there is no sure-fire way to prevent an attack.
Research shows that nearly 85% of all victims of sexual assault knew the person who raped or assaulted them.
This means that it's far more likely for a person to get raped by someone he/she knows instead of a stranger in a dark alley.
while it's important to take precautions when you're alone, you shouldn't completely let your guard down when you're with people you know.
Know that there is no stereotypical victim or rapist.
Sexual assault can occur in any situation and is never your fault regardless of the circumstances.
In an ideal world, the best way to prevent a potential rape is to educate all members of both sexes to respect and help each other.
But the question is, are we living in an ideal world? You know the answer to that question already.
while you can never completely protect yourself from sexual assault,.../i
...being informed can also go a long way in helping you avoid dangerous situations.
The following tweets are not meant to justify a rapist's actions in any way.
They simply provides tips that can help you feel safer.
1. Communicate your limits clearly.
2. Polite approaches may be misunderstood or ignored. But, hey, simply make your point known.
3. If someone starts to offend you or cross a line that you have set for yourself, tell them firmly and early.
4. If the person does not respect your wishes, you have no business relating with the person. Bow out graciously.
5. Please, do not give someone the chance to violate your wishes or boundaries.
6. Be assertive.
7. If somebody is giving you unwanted attention, tell them to back off.
8. Listen, there is no need to be polite when somebody is making unwanted sexual advances at you.
9. Firmly tell the person thanks, but no thanks. you're not interested and move on.
10. This approach may be more difficult if it's someone you actually know and care about, but it will still be possible.
11. See, once you get the message across, the person will be much more likely to move on.
12. Be direct and firm with someone who is sexually pressuring you. Let your "NO" be "NO."
13. Tell an acquaintance or your partner what you want - or don't want - and stick with your decision. Let no one pressure you.
14. Keep personal information private. Don't advertise your info verbally or on the Internet. Be wise!
15. Also, be very careful while meeting up with anyone whom you meet on the Internet.
16. Date rape is also extremely common these days. Especially date with strangers.
17. According to one study, nearly 1/3 of rapes are committed by a ‘date.’
18. If you are out on a date, and you are not ready to have sex, please, say “NO.”
19. You do not have to feel as if you owe someone sex because you went on a date with them.
20. Don’t fall for the cliché “if they say no, they really mean yes.” If your partner says “no” to sex, believe them and stop.#Men
21. Don’t assume that someone wants to have sex because of the way they are dressed, drink, or behave. Sex should be consensual.
22. #Guys, that if someone has had sex with you before does not mean that they are willing to have sex with you again. Discern.
23. Also don’t assume that if your partner consents to kissing or other sexual activities,they are consenting to all sexual activities
24. #Guys, Be aware that having sex with someone who is mentally or physically incapable of giving consent is RAPE.
25. Keep a clear mind when considering if you want to have sex. Don’t mix drugs or alcohol with sexual decisions.
26. Know that alcohol&drug use can impair your judgment. u might not be able to make the same decision you would make if u were sober.
27.While going out with someone new or someone you met on an internet dating site, have a group date or meet them in a public place.
28. When you are out on a date, keep an eye on your drink. Avoid accepting drink from a stranger, this could be dangerous.
29. While out, only drink something that you have poured yourself or that comes in a pre-sealed container.
30. Premixed drinks can have more alcohol in them than you might want to drink.
31. If you are a “Fanta” type, please stick to “Fanta” when you are out on a date. You may try other brands when you are home.
32. Many rapes occur with the help of drugs being slipped into a victim’s drink and most of these drugs you cannot taste or smell.
33. Drugs like Rohypnol and GHB are mostly used because it can make someone to lose consciousness easily.
34. Please, even when you are on the dance floor, keep your drink with you.
35. Be aware of your surroundings.
36. Knowing where you are and who is around you may help you to find a way to get out of a bad situation.
37. Don't allow yourself to be isolated with someone you don’t trust or someone you don’t know.
38. Try to avoid isolated areas (especially at night), because it is more difficult to get help if no one is around.
39. Always walk with purpose. Even if you don’t know where you are going, act like you do.
40. If a situation or location feels unsafe or uncomfortable, it probably isn’t the best place to be. Leave at once!
41. Dear lady, Please be mindful of your dressing. Don't dress shabbily. You are graciously and wonderfully created.
42. There are some dressing that can give a rapist easy access to you.
43. Always dress gorgeously but decently.
44. This next point of mine might raise dust. But, hey, I just had to say it.
45. The next tips to apply when being confronted with rape/assault is to respond physically. yes, I mean PHYSICALLY!
46. Even clear communication is not always effective. Some people simply don't listen or don't care.
47. If someone is assaulting you and not responding to your objections,/i
you have the right physically defend yourself if you feel you can do so./ii
48. If possible, push the person away, scream "NO” to attract the attention of others.
49. And say that you consider what the person is doing to be rape.
50. It is understandable that most people instinctively do not respond forcefully to people they know.
51. However, it is not an excuse for someone to commit sexual assault.
52. Please, get involved if you believe that someone is at risk of rape.
53. If you see someone in trouble or someone pressuring another person, don’t be afraid to intervene.
54. Lastly, if you have been raped, abused, or assaulted, relax! God’s got your back.
55. Embrace God for your total (physical, emotional, and spiritual) healing.
56. Most importantly, Be Wise. Be careful. Be on your guard. Be sensitive to your environment.
My prayer for you is that God will engrace you with the discerning spirit so you can always discern danger and flee.
Thank you once more for having me on this great platform. your presence, RTs, are mentions are highly appreciated.
My profound thanks goes to my Sis, Bunmi @Bunmi_Sobowale the vision carrier of #AARTalk. Keep soaring high, the sky is your starting point.
I am immensely grateful to God and to you all. Thank you! Thank you! And Thank you! For having me.
I am Sandra Gold Ibeh. Stay blessed and Rapturable.
Sandra Gold Ibeh is Self motivated & Result oriented individual, Social Entrepreneur,M&E , Excellent project coordinator #MUFC addict.|co-organiser AFRITEX. You can follow her on twitter........
Twitter handles: @SandraSandyGold @BukkyShonibare @dustbinestate @ExcelImpacts
SANDRA GOLD @SandraSandyGold WAS OUR 1ST GUEST SPEAKER ON THE MARCH EDITION OF #AARTalk. SSHARED ON "REDUCING YOUR RISK OF BEING SEXUALLY ASSAULTED. "
Thank you @Bunmi_Sobowale. Good evening everyone, and thank you for having me.
Firstly, let me thank God for this opportunity availed to me, I promise to use it to the glory of God & for the benefit of mankind.
I submit myself under the leading of the Holy Spirit, and I pray that he will bless someone through me tonight, Amen.
As you would know of course, my incredible Sister @Bunmi_Sobowale is the visionary behind #AARTalk. Honoured to do this, so lets do this.
Tonight, we shall be learning some tips on how one can secure oneself against rape or any form of sexual assault.
The Topic is, “reducing your risk of being sexually assaulted.”
Before we proceed, It is pertinent we understand the concept of sexual assault.
According to Wikipedia, Sexual assault is any involuntary sexual act in which a person is coerced or physically forced to engage./i
...against their will, or any non-consensual sexual touching of a person./ii
Sexual assault is a crime of motive and opportunity.
Ultimately, there is no sure-fire way to prevent an attack.
Research shows that nearly 85% of all victims of sexual assault knew the person who raped or assaulted them.
This means that it's far more likely for a person to get raped by someone he/she knows instead of a stranger in a dark alley.
while it's important to take precautions when you're alone, you shouldn't completely let your guard down when you're with people you know.
Know that there is no stereotypical victim or rapist.
Sexual assault can occur in any situation and is never your fault regardless of the circumstances.
In an ideal world, the best way to prevent a potential rape is to educate all members of both sexes to respect and help each other.
But the question is, are we living in an ideal world? You know the answer to that question already.
while you can never completely protect yourself from sexual assault,.../i
...being informed can also go a long way in helping you avoid dangerous situations.
The following tweets are not meant to justify a rapist's actions in any way.
They simply provides tips that can help you feel safer.
1. Communicate your limits clearly.
2. Polite approaches may be misunderstood or ignored. But, hey, simply make your point known.
3. If someone starts to offend you or cross a line that you have set for yourself, tell them firmly and early.
4. If the person does not respect your wishes, you have no business relating with the person. Bow out graciously.
5. Please, do not give someone the chance to violate your wishes or boundaries.
6. Be assertive.
7. If somebody is giving you unwanted attention, tell them to back off.
8. Listen, there is no need to be polite when somebody is making unwanted sexual advances at you.
9. Firmly tell the person thanks, but no thanks. you're not interested and move on.
10. This approach may be more difficult if it's someone you actually know and care about, but it will still be possible.
11. See, once you get the message across, the person will be much more likely to move on.
12. Be direct and firm with someone who is sexually pressuring you. Let your "NO" be "NO."
13. Tell an acquaintance or your partner what you want - or don't want - and stick with your decision. Let no one pressure you.
14. Keep personal information private. Don't advertise your info verbally or on the Internet. Be wise!
15. Also, be very careful while meeting up with anyone whom you meet on the Internet.
16. Date rape is also extremely common these days. Especially date with strangers.
17. According to one study, nearly 1/3 of rapes are committed by a ‘date.’
18. If you are out on a date, and you are not ready to have sex, please, say “NO.”
19. You do not have to feel as if you owe someone sex because you went on a date with them.
20. Don’t fall for the cliché “if they say no, they really mean yes.” If your partner says “no” to sex, believe them and stop.#Men
21. Don’t assume that someone wants to have sex because of the way they are dressed, drink, or behave. Sex should be consensual.
22. #Guys, that if someone has had sex with you before does not mean that they are willing to have sex with you again. Discern.
23. Also don’t assume that if your partner consents to kissing or other sexual activities,they are consenting to all sexual activities
24. #Guys, Be aware that having sex with someone who is mentally or physically incapable of giving consent is RAPE.
25. Keep a clear mind when considering if you want to have sex. Don’t mix drugs or alcohol with sexual decisions.
26. Know that alcohol&drug use can impair your judgment. u might not be able to make the same decision you would make if u were sober.
27.While going out with someone new or someone you met on an internet dating site, have a group date or meet them in a public place.
28. When you are out on a date, keep an eye on your drink. Avoid accepting drink from a stranger, this could be dangerous.
29. While out, only drink something that you have poured yourself or that comes in a pre-sealed container.
30. Premixed drinks can have more alcohol in them than you might want to drink.
31. If you are a “Fanta” type, please stick to “Fanta” when you are out on a date. You may try other brands when you are home.
32. Many rapes occur with the help of drugs being slipped into a victim’s drink and most of these drugs you cannot taste or smell.
33. Drugs like Rohypnol and GHB are mostly used because it can make someone to lose consciousness easily.
34. Please, even when you are on the dance floor, keep your drink with you.
35. Be aware of your surroundings.
36. Knowing where you are and who is around you may help you to find a way to get out of a bad situation.
37. Don't allow yourself to be isolated with someone you don’t trust or someone you don’t know.
38. Try to avoid isolated areas (especially at night), because it is more difficult to get help if no one is around.
39. Always walk with purpose. Even if you don’t know where you are going, act like you do.
40. If a situation or location feels unsafe or uncomfortable, it probably isn’t the best place to be. Leave at once!
41. Dear lady, Please be mindful of your dressing. Don't dress shabbily. You are graciously and wonderfully created.
42. There are some dressing that can give a rapist easy access to you.
43. Always dress gorgeously but decently.
44. This next point of mine might raise dust. But, hey, I just had to say it.
45. The next tips to apply when being confronted with rape/assault is to respond physically. yes, I mean PHYSICALLY!
46. Even clear communication is not always effective. Some people simply don't listen or don't care.
47. If someone is assaulting you and not responding to your objections,/i
you have the right physically defend yourself if you feel you can do so./ii
48. If possible, push the person away, scream "NO” to attract the attention of others.
49. And say that you consider what the person is doing to be rape.
50. It is understandable that most people instinctively do not respond forcefully to people they know.
51. However, it is not an excuse for someone to commit sexual assault.
52. Please, get involved if you believe that someone is at risk of rape.
53. If you see someone in trouble or someone pressuring another person, don’t be afraid to intervene.
54. Lastly, if you have been raped, abused, or assaulted, relax! God’s got your back.
55. Embrace God for your total (physical, emotional, and spiritual) healing.
56. Most importantly, Be Wise. Be careful. Be on your guard. Be sensitive to your environment.
My prayer for you is that God will engrace you with the discerning spirit so you can always discern danger and flee.
Thank you once more for having me on this great platform. your presence, RTs, are mentions are highly appreciated.
My profound thanks goes to my Sis, Bunmi @Bunmi_Sobowale the vision carrier of #AARTalk. Keep soaring high, the sky is your starting point.
I am immensely grateful to God and to you all. Thank you! Thank you! And Thank you! For having me.
I am Sandra Gold Ibeh. Stay blessed and Rapturable.
Sandra Gold Ibeh is Self motivated & Result oriented individual, Social Entrepreneur,M&E , Excellent project coordinator #MUFC addict.|co-organiser AFRITEX. You can follow her on twitter........
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