CHRISTIANAH AKINDOLIE @akindolie2012 WAS OUR 3RD GUEST SPEAKER ON THE FEBRUARY EDITION OF #AARTalk. SHE SHARED ON "IT SHOULD'NT HURT TO BE A CHILD."
Thank you very much. I am happy to be here.
Tonight I will be tweeting on a topic I hold so dear it shouldn't hurt to be a child.
Hurt means to injure, wound, damage, disable, incapacitate, mutilate, harm or offend.
Hurt also involves spoiling, causing pain, molesting or causing emotional pain. Or trauma
A child in the Nigerian constitution is anyone within the ages of 0-18 years.
Hurt affects the mind, beliefs, emotions, will, relationships with God and man.
Hurting a child not only comes from what was done but also what was NOT done by parents and Guardians.
Hurting a child is morally and spiritually wrong. Permit me to say that even Jesus kicks against hurting a child.
In Mathew 18:6 Jesus said it is better for a child offender have a stone hung on his neck and he be cast into the sea.
others are on-going and constant.
A child can be hurt physically, emotionally, sexually or it could be the neglect of a child..
Now let's take a look each of the ways of hurting a child.
Physical hurt is deliberately causing injuries with evidences of bruises, broken bones, burns or cuts on a child.
It is not usually accidental! Children are hurt physically by being hit, kicked, slapped, poisoned, burnt.
There is no excuse for physically hurting a child! It could cause serious and long lasting harm on a child.
Physical hurt can be caused by a parent who wants to take out anger and frustration on a child
It is so pathetic to know that some children have died due to physical hurt.
A child can also be hurt emotionally. This is also called psychological abuse or hurt.
Because you had a bad day at work or loosed that contract does not give you the right to take it out on an innocent child.
Emotional hurt involves trying to scare a child or humilating a child.
When your child does not perform well at school and you say "you are a disappointment "causing more hurt to a child.
Not giving a child opportunity to express his views hurts emotionally.
Deliberately silencing a child or making fun of what they say or how they communicate hurts a lot.
It hurts when a child becomes a subject of joke or using sarcasm against a child.
Labeling children causes discouragement which is the opposite of a parent good intentions.e.g calling a child perfect little angel.
Never saying anything kind, expressing positive feelings or congratulating a child's success hurts a child.
A child hurts emotionally when parents show more love or favors to the other siblings.
When parents compare children to each other, the sibling relationship is hurt and resentment grows.
Research shows that emotional hurt is the 2nd most common reasons for children needing protection from abuse.
A child hurts when he or she is expected to meet a much needed emotional comfort.
It hurts when parents are not emotionally available because they are not around or too busy and tired to listen to a child.
A child could hurt when being over protected , given limiting opportunities to explore, learn or make friends.
A child hurts when parents don't help them discover and develop their God-given potential at the right time
It hurts when parents discourage a child from pursuing a God- given talent.
A child hurts when parents become violent in their relationship. It's even worse when a child is a witness to the act.
Thirdly a child could be hurt through sexual abuse. This involves forcing or persuading a child to take part in sexual activities.
Child sexual abuse doesn't have to be physical, it happens online too!
Most times children cannot understand what is happening when they are sexually abused.
Touching or fondling a child's genitals will hurt a child now and in the future.
Anyone who encourages a child to engage in sexual acts with someone or making a child strip/ masturbate hurts that child's future.
Parents who do not have plans to protect their children from sexual abuse in this age are guilty of hurting them.
To avoid hurting a child sexually, parents must be discreet while having sex.
A 13 yrs old girl once told me that she secretly watch her parents have sex for 2 yrs. This led her to also practice what she saw.
Not taking proper measures to prevent child from being exposed to sexual activities will Hurt a child now and in the future.
I can boldly say that completely trusting people with your child could be hurting .
It is hurting when anyone pays for watching, engaging or participating in sexual activities with a child.
Encouraging a child to watch pornography or showing sexual pictures to a child hurts that innocent soul.
Taking explicit pictures, making videos or using webcam to showcase a child's sexual part is very very hurting.
When a child is raped, the abuser has taken away the innocent, dignity and destiny - now that is quite hurting.
It really hurts when a child is forced or cajoled into sending or posting sexual explicit ages online.
A lot of adults are still hurting becos they are yet to recover from the hurt encountered in their childhood.
Hurt could last for a life time. It could lead to bitter, hatred, malice, anger, suicide, depression or even murder.
The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. So watch what you say your children.
Children are like wet cement what falls on them makes an impression.
Lastly, when parents take a few second to think about what is going on, put themselves in their children shoes they can avoid hurt.
Give unconditional love and encouragement to your child everyday.
Anyone can have a child and call himself a parent.A real parent is someone who puts that child above his own selfish need and wants.
Hope I have done justice on this topic.
Christianah Akindolie is the Executive Director Christianah Fate Foundation. Educate, train and empower children, parents and teachers on child sexual abuse, teen sexuality. You can connect with her on twitter.....
Thank you very much. I am happy to be here.
Tonight I will be tweeting on a topic I hold so dear it shouldn't hurt to be a child.
Hurt means to injure, wound, damage, disable, incapacitate, mutilate, harm or offend.
Hurt also involves spoiling, causing pain, molesting or causing emotional pain. Or trauma
A child in the Nigerian constitution is anyone within the ages of 0-18 years.
Hurt affects the mind, beliefs, emotions, will, relationships with God and man.
Hurting a child not only comes from what was done but also what was NOT done by parents and Guardians.
Hurting a child is morally and spiritually wrong. Permit me to say that even Jesus kicks against hurting a child.
In Mathew 18:6 Jesus said it is better for a child offender have a stone hung on his neck and he be cast into the sea.
others are on-going and constant.
A child can be hurt physically, emotionally, sexually or it could be the neglect of a child..
Now let's take a look each of the ways of hurting a child.
Physical hurt is deliberately causing injuries with evidences of bruises, broken bones, burns or cuts on a child.
It is not usually accidental! Children are hurt physically by being hit, kicked, slapped, poisoned, burnt.
There is no excuse for physically hurting a child! It could cause serious and long lasting harm on a child.
Physical hurt can be caused by a parent who wants to take out anger and frustration on a child
It is so pathetic to know that some children have died due to physical hurt.
A child can also be hurt emotionally. This is also called psychological abuse or hurt.
Because you had a bad day at work or loosed that contract does not give you the right to take it out on an innocent child.
Emotional hurt involves trying to scare a child or humilating a child.
When your child does not perform well at school and you say "you are a disappointment "causing more hurt to a child.
Not giving a child opportunity to express his views hurts emotionally.
Deliberately silencing a child or making fun of what they say or how they communicate hurts a lot.
It hurts when a child becomes a subject of joke or using sarcasm against a child.
Labeling children causes discouragement which is the opposite of a parent good intentions.e.g calling a child perfect little angel.
Never saying anything kind, expressing positive feelings or congratulating a child's success hurts a child.
A child hurts emotionally when parents show more love or favors to the other siblings.
When parents compare children to each other, the sibling relationship is hurt and resentment grows.
Research shows that emotional hurt is the 2nd most common reasons for children needing protection from abuse.
A child hurts when he or she is expected to meet a much needed emotional comfort.
It hurts when parents are not emotionally available because they are not around or too busy and tired to listen to a child.
A child could hurt when being over protected , given limiting opportunities to explore, learn or make friends.
A child hurts when parents don't help them discover and develop their God-given potential at the right time
It hurts when parents discourage a child from pursuing a God- given talent.
A child hurts when parents become violent in their relationship. It's even worse when a child is a witness to the act.
Thirdly a child could be hurt through sexual abuse. This involves forcing or persuading a child to take part in sexual activities.
Child sexual abuse doesn't have to be physical, it happens online too!
Most times children cannot understand what is happening when they are sexually abused.
Touching or fondling a child's genitals will hurt a child now and in the future.
Anyone who encourages a child to engage in sexual acts with someone or making a child strip/ masturbate hurts that child's future.
Parents who do not have plans to protect their children from sexual abuse in this age are guilty of hurting them.
To avoid hurting a child sexually, parents must be discreet while having sex.
A 13 yrs old girl once told me that she secretly watch her parents have sex for 2 yrs. This led her to also practice what she saw.
Not taking proper measures to prevent child from being exposed to sexual activities will Hurt a child now and in the future.
I can boldly say that completely trusting people with your child could be hurting .
It is hurting when anyone pays for watching, engaging or participating in sexual activities with a child.
Encouraging a child to watch pornography or showing sexual pictures to a child hurts that innocent soul.
Taking explicit pictures, making videos or using webcam to showcase a child's sexual part is very very hurting.
When a child is raped, the abuser has taken away the innocent, dignity and destiny - now that is quite hurting.
It really hurts when a child is forced or cajoled into sending or posting sexual explicit ages online.
A lot of adults are still hurting becos they are yet to recover from the hurt encountered in their childhood.
Hurt could last for a life time. It could lead to bitter, hatred, malice, anger, suicide, depression or even murder.
The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. So watch what you say your children.
Children are like wet cement what falls on them makes an impression.
Lastly, when parents take a few second to think about what is going on, put themselves in their children shoes they can avoid hurt.
Give unconditional love and encouragement to your child everyday.
Anyone can have a child and call himself a parent.A real parent is someone who puts that child above his own selfish need and wants.
Hope I have done justice on this topic.
Christianah Akindolie is the Executive Director Christianah Fate Foundation. Educate, train and empower children, parents and teachers on child sexual abuse, teen sexuality. You can connect with her on twitter.....
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