MEET OUR OCTOBER SPEAKERS ON #AARTALK: ADENIKE ADEDOKUN, YOMI FAWEHINMI , BRIDGET ELESHIN, ZURIEL OLUWABUKUNOLA OLOWE, EMEKA NOBIS.
Twitter handles: @NikeAdedokun @yomitheprof @BridgetElesin @bukunlolaOlowe @iamemekanobis
NIKE ADEDOKUN @NikeAdedokun WAS OUR 1ST GUEST SPEAKER ON THE OCTOBER EDITION OF #AARTALK. SHE SHARED ON "UNMASTURBATE"
Hello everyone. It's a great opportunity to be on #AARTalk with @bunmi_sobowale. Thanks for the honour.
Tonight, I would be sharing on UNMASTURBATE. I help people in building healthy relationships, stable minds and sane sexuality.
Unmasturbate is just a reverse mode for Masturbate. It simply means "To stop masturbation".Take a deep breathe!
I need to alert you that you should have an open mind on this topic because am sure you either feel it's right or wrong.
Masturbation is a Self Stimulation of one's genitals to derive sexual pleasure. Take note of "SELF".
Masturbation can take many forms either by hand, object, a partner et al'
An addiction is stored in the mind by consistently and gradually repeating the same act. It is a battle of the mind.
Masturbation centers on "SELF" leading to "SELF SEX" and the beauty of sex Is supposed to occur between two married couples.
Singles & Married are involved in Masturbation for many reasons like Seeking Pleasure, uncontrollable sexual urge et al.
Masturbation can start as a result of internal influenced or external influenced form of trigger.
Internal influence is getting into masturbation because of a trigger like Pornography, Unsatisfied sex, mostly out of a stimuli.
External influence is masturbating because every one is doing it, because the society accepts it like peer pressure, et al'.
To unmasturbate; Start by asking yourself what led you to the act. Is it by a trigger or because it was accepted?
For me, I was abused by guys & ladies at several points so I became very sexually active from age 8 and I needed to feel more.
I ended up in pornography by chance which opened my eyes to various sexual forms, so I wanted more.
I had lots of sex junks in me from sex movies to romance books to hard core sex books + live sex scenes. I craved for more.
This new data pushed me to seeking pleasure myself and that was the journey to masturbation. What's your story?
Have you been raped, influenced or forced? Was it out of ignorance? Was it because of teenage or sexual urge?
Masturbation can cause different things to different people so it's better to treat yours as personally & not a general case.
For me, It made me concentrate on myself that I saw no reason for sex even when I get married. I became in charge of my body.
I went ahead to explore more with hardcore romance which revealed that I needed to finalise the act personally for satisfaction.
The brain has a way of locating sources and triggers of pleasure, hence, would lead you to getting & doing more.
Some people get affected by health issues like weak erection, impotence, libido issues, some get disturbed mentally.
Because of a fixed form of activity, some use the act to get over situation like stress, idleness, tension = addiction.
Some don't even feel any complications hence see no reason to why it is unhealthy but for sure, it leads to Self-Gratification.
For singles,there is danger in getting addicted to Self sex as it might affect full satisfaction from your partner in marriage.
For married, it shifts your mind from "US" to "I". You keep wanting more of "Self" than "US" affecting oneness with partner.
Ask yourself? What are your present gains, future gains, fears, pains, regrets, consequences et al? Why the trap?
Being aware, You need to also discover if you are visual(Sight), auditory(Sounds) , kinesthetic(Feelings)
Or Audio-digital(Mixture of 3) ? Where does your trigger lie more? For me, I am Audio digital, more trouble.
You may be triggered from viewing pictures, films, scenes, naked picture, hearing moans or explicit lyrics et al'.
To master your mind, you need to discover the root and the way out. How bad do you want out? Ignorance kills!
It's difficult letting go because it deals more with the mind but won't you rather be the master of your mind than be enslaved.
Would you be preferred to be trapped in the closet struggling or walking free like a sane sexual being?
It has become a pattern unconsciously, so you would need to consciously deactivate the modules before it becomes unconscious.
Your conscious mind may know it's wrong while your subconscious mind doesn't see it that way. There is need to RE-INSTALL.
To UNMASTURBATE, Admit the act, no pretense! You need to be determined to re-install the act in your mind.
Do a deep test into the root and cause as earlier mentioned. This is is the beginning of freedom called SELF AWARENESS
Replace the act with a new hobby like dancing, reading, jogging et al" and this really need a conscious effort.
To be candid, seek help, that makes you accountable. You can talk to me for help or any trusted therapist you know.
I wish I was accountable during my struggles, it would have helped me. I struggled for 10 years in silence.
Beware of your company too. I once had a friend and a partner that encouraged it which messed me up the more.
The power lies in your mind to Unmasturbate. I hope these tweets have given you a mind shift in your mind set.
I would take questions now or talk to me privately through relcapsules@gmail.com for detailed matters.
I have an Ebook or also conduct therapy sessions for people struggling with masturbation. I would be willing to help.
Thank you @bunmi_sobowale and everyone for following and retweeting. I am humbled.
Nike Adedokun is a Relationship & Sexuality Coach. Author. Speaker. Curator of #SinglesDate. Practitioner of NLP. Convener of MindShift Network. You can connect with her on twitter......
Twitter handles: @NikeAdedokun @yomitheprof @BridgetElesin @bukunlolaOlowe @iamemekanobis
NIKE ADEDOKUN @NikeAdedokun WAS OUR 1ST GUEST SPEAKER ON THE OCTOBER EDITION OF #AARTALK. SHE SHARED ON "UNMASTURBATE"
Hello everyone. It's a great opportunity to be on #AARTalk with @bunmi_sobowale. Thanks for the honour.
Tonight, I would be sharing on UNMASTURBATE. I help people in building healthy relationships, stable minds and sane sexuality.
Unmasturbate is just a reverse mode for Masturbate. It simply means "To stop masturbation".Take a deep breathe!
I need to alert you that you should have an open mind on this topic because am sure you either feel it's right or wrong.
Masturbation is a Self Stimulation of one's genitals to derive sexual pleasure. Take note of "SELF".
Masturbation can take many forms either by hand, object, a partner et al'
An addiction is stored in the mind by consistently and gradually repeating the same act. It is a battle of the mind.
Masturbation centers on "SELF" leading to "SELF SEX" and the beauty of sex Is supposed to occur between two married couples.
Singles & Married are involved in Masturbation for many reasons like Seeking Pleasure, uncontrollable sexual urge et al.
Masturbation can start as a result of internal influenced or external influenced form of trigger.
Internal influence is getting into masturbation because of a trigger like Pornography, Unsatisfied sex, mostly out of a stimuli.
External influence is masturbating because every one is doing it, because the society accepts it like peer pressure, et al'.
To unmasturbate; Start by asking yourself what led you to the act. Is it by a trigger or because it was accepted?
For me, I was abused by guys & ladies at several points so I became very sexually active from age 8 and I needed to feel more.
I ended up in pornography by chance which opened my eyes to various sexual forms, so I wanted more.
I had lots of sex junks in me from sex movies to romance books to hard core sex books + live sex scenes. I craved for more.
This new data pushed me to seeking pleasure myself and that was the journey to masturbation. What's your story?
Have you been raped, influenced or forced? Was it out of ignorance? Was it because of teenage or sexual urge?
Masturbation can cause different things to different people so it's better to treat yours as personally & not a general case.
For me, It made me concentrate on myself that I saw no reason for sex even when I get married. I became in charge of my body.
I went ahead to explore more with hardcore romance which revealed that I needed to finalise the act personally for satisfaction.
The brain has a way of locating sources and triggers of pleasure, hence, would lead you to getting & doing more.
Some people get affected by health issues like weak erection, impotence, libido issues, some get disturbed mentally.
Because of a fixed form of activity, some use the act to get over situation like stress, idleness, tension = addiction.
Some don't even feel any complications hence see no reason to why it is unhealthy but for sure, it leads to Self-Gratification.
For singles,there is danger in getting addicted to Self sex as it might affect full satisfaction from your partner in marriage.
For married, it shifts your mind from "US" to "I". You keep wanting more of "Self" than "US" affecting oneness with partner.
Ask yourself? What are your present gains, future gains, fears, pains, regrets, consequences et al? Why the trap?
Being aware, You need to also discover if you are visual(Sight), auditory(Sounds) , kinesthetic(Feelings)
Or Audio-digital(Mixture of 3) ? Where does your trigger lie more? For me, I am Audio digital, more trouble.
You may be triggered from viewing pictures, films, scenes, naked picture, hearing moans or explicit lyrics et al'.
To master your mind, you need to discover the root and the way out. How bad do you want out? Ignorance kills!
It's difficult letting go because it deals more with the mind but won't you rather be the master of your mind than be enslaved.
Would you be preferred to be trapped in the closet struggling or walking free like a sane sexual being?
It has become a pattern unconsciously, so you would need to consciously deactivate the modules before it becomes unconscious.
Your conscious mind may know it's wrong while your subconscious mind doesn't see it that way. There is need to RE-INSTALL.
To UNMASTURBATE, Admit the act, no pretense! You need to be determined to re-install the act in your mind.
Do a deep test into the root and cause as earlier mentioned. This is is the beginning of freedom called SELF AWARENESS
Replace the act with a new hobby like dancing, reading, jogging et al" and this really need a conscious effort.
To be candid, seek help, that makes you accountable. You can talk to me for help or any trusted therapist you know.
I wish I was accountable during my struggles, it would have helped me. I struggled for 10 years in silence.
Beware of your company too. I once had a friend and a partner that encouraged it which messed me up the more.
The power lies in your mind to Unmasturbate. I hope these tweets have given you a mind shift in your mind set.
I would take questions now or talk to me privately through relcapsules@gmail.com for detailed matters.
I have an Ebook or also conduct therapy sessions for people struggling with masturbation. I would be willing to help.
Thank you @bunmi_sobowale and everyone for following and retweeting. I am humbled.
Nike Adedokun is a Relationship & Sexuality Coach. Author. Speaker. Curator of #SinglesDate. Practitioner of NLP. Convener of MindShift Network. You can connect with her on twitter......
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