MEET OUR OCTOBER SPEAKERS ON #AARTALK: LOUISANO ONO EIKHOMUN, JOSEPHINE CHUKWUMA, YINKA OGUNNUBI, YOSOLA ADIGUN.
Twitter handles: @Louisano1 @jeffachukwuma @yinkanubi @YosolaAdigun
LOUISANO ONO EIKHOMUN @Loisano1 WAS OUR 1ST GUEST SPEAKER ON THE NOVEMBER EDITION ON #AARTALK. SHE SHARED ON "VERBAL AND EMOTIONAL BULLETS."
Hi Everyone, so glad to be part of Bunmi Sobowale's great work.
Today Emotional and Verbal Bullets is a topic that is dear to my heart.
Emotional Abuse is figuratively used as a bullet here because of its piercing and damaging effect.
When People think of abuse they often picture battered women who are physically assaulted.
Just because a woman is not battered and bruised doesn't mean she is not suffering abuse.
Many Men and Women Suffer from Emotional and Verbal Abuse.
Emotional Abuse is often minimised or overlooked even by the person being abused.
Coming to Circle of Domestic Violence, it is surprising how much a woman can take in a doomed relationship.
Shouting, name calling, blaming, shaming, all fall under emotional abuse verbalized to reduce a victim.
The aim of verbal bullets is to chip away at feelings of self worth, independence, confidence, self esteem, joy, and peace.
If Physical Abuse can send a woman to the hospital and leave her with scars, verbal abuse are very real and run deeper and damaging.
Domestic abuse escalates verbal abuse to threats and violence, no one should endure it, leads to anxiety, shame and depression
I was married to man who knew I was a happy woman full of passion and purpose but he tried using verbal bullets to knock me down.
I was told my being unemployed then in the marriage despite my good certificate was because of 'bottom power' I used in University.
I was called unprintable names to frustrate my hopes and vision. I was called 'ASAWO' (prostitute) a worn out cliches for prostitute.
I was called wasteful, a spendthrift even when I was not given any money to spend. What an irony.
So many women and girls go through these in intimate relationship and don't even know they verbally under grave attack.
In courtship my partner would visit me and empty the plates of food I served, but in marriage,he announced openly I was a bad cook.
Verbal Abuse comes in stages, if accepted the abuser sees the victim as a perfect prey, it graduates to everyday fun.
Verbal Abuse is common on Nigerian Roads, from commuters, pedestrians, bus conductors, traders. These abuses that no one remembers.
Verbal abuse from a loved one who is supposed to protect and encourage, becomes threatening to self esteem and well being.
The realization that you worth LESS to your partner first hits you like a thunder and the fall into oblivion of confusion and shame.
After a verbal attack, and the abuser apologize later, it not the same ever again. The mind begins to question the relationship.
For example a man who tells his wife ' Did your father own a bicycle in his life time that you want to drive my car is mean.
'Nothing Good can come out of you', 'The Children are just like you', Since I 'married you my life has gone down', 'Liability'.
We should condemn verbal abuse from anyone, it is wrong, it is demeaning and damaging and scars the victim for life.
Verbal Bullets kills not fast like the physical bullets from a gun, it destroys the health and psyche gradually.Many do not recover.
It has been wonderful sharing with you on Emotional and Verbal Bullets all and special thanks to @Bunmi_Sobowale @KICKagainstRAPE
Louisano Ono Eikomun is the Executive Director of Echoes of Women in Africa Initiative (ECOWA). You can follow her on twitter......
Twitter handles: @Louisano1 @jeffachukwuma @yinkanubi @YosolaAdigun
LOUISANO ONO EIKHOMUN @Loisano1 WAS OUR 1ST GUEST SPEAKER ON THE NOVEMBER EDITION ON #AARTALK. SHE SHARED ON "VERBAL AND EMOTIONAL BULLETS."
Hi Everyone, so glad to be part of Bunmi Sobowale's great work.
Today Emotional and Verbal Bullets is a topic that is dear to my heart.
Emotional Abuse is figuratively used as a bullet here because of its piercing and damaging effect.
When People think of abuse they often picture battered women who are physically assaulted.
Just because a woman is not battered and bruised doesn't mean she is not suffering abuse.
Many Men and Women Suffer from Emotional and Verbal Abuse.
Emotional Abuse is often minimised or overlooked even by the person being abused.
Coming to Circle of Domestic Violence, it is surprising how much a woman can take in a doomed relationship.
Shouting, name calling, blaming, shaming, all fall under emotional abuse verbalized to reduce a victim.
The aim of verbal bullets is to chip away at feelings of self worth, independence, confidence, self esteem, joy, and peace.
If Physical Abuse can send a woman to the hospital and leave her with scars, verbal abuse are very real and run deeper and damaging.
Domestic abuse escalates verbal abuse to threats and violence, no one should endure it, leads to anxiety, shame and depression
I was married to man who knew I was a happy woman full of passion and purpose but he tried using verbal bullets to knock me down.
I was told my being unemployed then in the marriage despite my good certificate was because of 'bottom power' I used in University.
I was called unprintable names to frustrate my hopes and vision. I was called 'ASAWO' (prostitute) a worn out cliches for prostitute.
I was called wasteful, a spendthrift even when I was not given any money to spend. What an irony.
So many women and girls go through these in intimate relationship and don't even know they verbally under grave attack.
In courtship my partner would visit me and empty the plates of food I served, but in marriage,he announced openly I was a bad cook.
Verbal Abuse comes in stages, if accepted the abuser sees the victim as a perfect prey, it graduates to everyday fun.
Verbal Abuse is common on Nigerian Roads, from commuters, pedestrians, bus conductors, traders. These abuses that no one remembers.
Verbal abuse from a loved one who is supposed to protect and encourage, becomes threatening to self esteem and well being.
The realization that you worth LESS to your partner first hits you like a thunder and the fall into oblivion of confusion and shame.
After a verbal attack, and the abuser apologize later, it not the same ever again. The mind begins to question the relationship.
For example a man who tells his wife ' Did your father own a bicycle in his life time that you want to drive my car is mean.
'Nothing Good can come out of you', 'The Children are just like you', Since I 'married you my life has gone down', 'Liability'.
We should condemn verbal abuse from anyone, it is wrong, it is demeaning and damaging and scars the victim for life.
Verbal Bullets kills not fast like the physical bullets from a gun, it destroys the health and psyche gradually.Many do not recover.
It has been wonderful sharing with you on Emotional and Verbal Bullets all and special thanks to @Bunmi_Sobowale @KICKagainstRAPE
Louisano Ono Eikomun is the Executive Director of Echoes of Women in Africa Initiative (ECOWA). You can follow her on twitter......
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